God created mankind in His image and in his likeness - both male and female! Uncommon to ultra-popular secular thought, man isn’t from “Mars” and the woman isn’t from “Venus”, therefore marriages will sparkle on Earth when potential spouses CHOOSE WISELY and plug in through earnest prayer to their Lord Jesus Christ and carefully listen to the omnipresent Holy Spirit of God Who continually shares many things with us daily.
The Almighty speaks Spirit to spirit to all people, everyday, yet too many give foolish credit for their innate thoughts as being intuition, ESP or even ‘a little birdie told me. If we’ll give God all the glory and honor, He will bless us in unbelievable ways!
Marriages Made By Heaven is a statement most all have heard but only a few truly believe that such a union is possible. Jesus wouldn’t have made the statement “With God, all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26) if godly marriages weren’t possible. If you have Jesus #1 in your marriage, all things you and your spouse pray for and ask for are not probable - in a point of fact, they’re always possible.
As awesome as our Almighty God is, He never compromises His Word and they’re literally true and not interpreted figuratively except where the context and harmony suggests. Though this world alters all things to fit human desire, politically-correct, our Lord Jesus remains constant and He is never politically-correct. The Lord Jesus Christ is not like man, He is “the same, yesterday and today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8, Malach 3:6) To compromise a marriage by saying the man and the woman are equal is to say kings and queens are too!
In godly marriages, the male is called to be the physical and spiritual leader and to set an example for his wife and future children to follow. The husband is a similitude of Christ in the family and the woman a likeness of God’s church. The calling of the husband is to cherish his bride even as Jesus loves and cherishes His Bride, the church. (Eph. 5:25)
The Christian marriage is a great mystery to the world because they miss God’s meaning of submissiveness. To be submissive is to be like Christ, and that’s giving. The world is full of takers and a marriage cannot be made up of two takers. For a successful union, both the husband and the wife must be givers, waking daily with the heartfelt thought “What can I do to make his/her day?”
Many get married in this age for all the wrong reasons. Beauty is always truly skin-deep so if you want a blessed spouse, look at his or her spirit first and not only the fleshly beauty.
Those not interested in making Jesus the center of their lives will never be able to love you. If they cannot put Jesus first and love Him as their God and Lord, they cannot love and serve you as their future spouse. Though God has power to control, he gives us free-will as true love requires it. Anyone who’s controlling another - is way out of control!
The perfect judge for future expectation is what they’ve done in the past. If your potential spouse is egotistical and vain, they’re putting themselves foremost and there’s never room for others.
Another form of an out of control person is one who is a striker. Physical abuse before marriage will escalate afterwards as those who strike out at others are jealously-saying, “you’re my property!”
“He therefore that despiseth,
despiseth not man, but God...”
1 THESSALONIANS 4:8
Physical-abusiveness is an ominous-sign they’re a controller and will reveal the dark side of a despiser of God. People who strike others, despise them at the time of the abuse. Avoid this one or you’ll pay with heartache later.
Anyone who’s trying to control the things you do or isolates you from your friends before your vows, will not improve on that trait after marriage. Someone jealous of your family ties or close friends during your courtship will dominate and isolate you from them once married, so don’t expect them to change this attitude after you’re married.
If your future wife/husband is a flirt with men or a womanizer, you’ll not change them in marriage. People who cheat on their partners before marriage, will continue the infidelity afterwards as leopards don’t change their spots. Avoid these problematic mates with a passion.
The old cliche that “opposites attract” is only true on magnets. For a rich and fully-successful marriage both partners should strive for common ideals and as many as possible. If either one of you are given over to spending up to half the time with friends, maybe thoughts of marriage is too premature an idea?
All people have likes and dislikes in life. Getting to know someone in heart and in spirit should reveal these traits. When a future spouse exhibits a propensity to do things to you they know you dislike, it is called “pushing your buttons!” Love is a four-letter word that means just the opposite and soul-mates are those who enjoy doing things their partner likes.
True love means living to make your spouse happy and all godly knowledge begins with your love for the Lord Jesus. If a couple has the Lord reigning first in their lives, happiness is very possible. Your love for God will reflect in your ability to love your spouse. Without Jesus first, there is no chance for a successful union.
Want Jesus first in your life? Start here:
DEAR GOD IN HEAVEN,
I’M A SINNER BUT I BELIEVE BY FAITH THAT JESUS
DIED FOR ALL SINNERS LIKE ME. I ASK YOU TO
FORGIVE MY SINS, TO CLEAN UP MY LIFE AND TO
PROTECT ME FROM ALL THE EVIL TO COME AND
I ASK IT IN THE PRECIOUS NAME OF JESUS. AMEN.
(ROMANS 10:9,10 - REV. 3:10)